Dara Sloan
Coaching
Chosen
A 30-Day Breakthrough For Women Who Are Done Repeating the Same Patterns in Relationships
Stop settling, trust yourself again, and create the healthy relationships you've wanted.
Imagine finishing these 30 days no longer second-guessing yourself, ignoring red flags, or settling for less than what you want. Instead, you're making decisions from self-trust, communicating your standards clearly, and attracting relationships that feel mutual, healthy, and secure.
July 6–August 4, 2026
Book by June 30
This is For You If ...
You're done overanalyzing texts and ready to trust yourself instead.
You've done the therapy and the podcasts and you're ready for something that actually rewires the pattern.
You're tired of undefined situations and ready to date with actual standards.
You want to stop rehearsing the same story.
You want to stop shrinking yourself to keep others comfortable.
You're ready to become the woman who doesn't chase because she knows her own worth.
You're ready to feel grounded and magnetic instead of anxious and reactive.
Awareness alone doesn’t change patterns.
You do not need to be in a relationship to join. Whether you're navigating something romantic, healing from a dynamic that cost you yourself, working through family or friendship patterns, or simply ready to show up differently, this space is for you.
And let’s be honest. Your group chat has done enough unpaid emotional labor.
Transformation you'll receive...
After 30 days, you'll:
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Notice your patterns in real time instead of three days later while debriefing with your best friend.
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Stop overfunctioning, overgiving, overexplaining, or emotionally auditioning for approval.
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Recognize when your nervous system is activated before it writes an entire Netflix miniseries about your future together.
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Build trust in your own discernment.
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Recognize what healthy relationships built on mutual effort, clarity, and consistency actually feel like.
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Shift from hoping to be chosen into becoming the woman who chooses from self-worth.
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Set standards and boundaries without making yourself the villain in your own mind.
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Show up differently in real time with live coaching support.
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Interrupt patterns that may have been running your relationships for years.
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This is not about becoming perfect. It’s about becoming conscious, grounded, and different in the moments that actually matter.
THE EXPERIENCE
WEEK 1: SEE IT CLEARLY
WEEK 2: RECLAIM YOUR IDENTITY
We start by identifying exactly how this pattern has been shaping your relationships. Not theoretically. Actually. The people you choose. The excuses you make. The moments you override your own knowing. The anxiety spikes. The "this feels different" situations that somehow end exactly the same.
This week is about radical clarity because you cannot shift what you're still romanticizing.
This is where we shift out of the version of you who shows up from proving, performing, waiting, or quietly shape shifting for others.
We begin building the grounded, self-led woman who receives what she deserves instead of negotiating for it.
WEEK 3: LIVE PRACTICE
(WHERE IT GETS REAL)
WEEK 4: EMBODY HER
This is where awareness meets actual life. Real conversations. Boundary moments. Trigger activation.
The moment you want to abandon yourself again. Bring it. This is where I coach you in real time so new patterns get practiced while life is actually happening.
This is integration. Different standards. Different choices. Different nervous system responses. Different relationship outcomes.
This is where she stops being a concept and becomes who you actually are.
Your nervous system may be writing fan fiction.
You're probably here because...
You're tired of ending up in the same relationship dynamic with different people.
You know you're settling, but every time you try to do something different, you end up back in the same cycle.
You've done therapy, podcasts, books, and healing work.
You're exhausted from overthinking, over-giving, and hoping this time will be different.
If you keep ending up in confusing relationship dynamics where you give more than you receive, where you shrink yourself to keep the peace, where you abandon what you want in order to avoid conflict or losing someone, there is likely something deeper going on.
And no, it is not because you are too much. Or not enough.
You say you want relationships that feel easy and mutual. But somehow you keep ending up overextending, overexplaining, or quietly resentful that no one seems to show up the way you do.
Maybe it shows up with men, the vague ones, the inconsistent ones, the ones allergic to clarity.
But it also shows up with friends you keep making excuses for. Family dynamics you can't seem to change no matter how much you understand them. The way you shrink in rooms where you should feel safe.
And instead of recognizing any of that as information, you tell yourself to be patient. To be understanding. To not push. To be easy.
Then weeks or months later you're emotionally invested in dynamics that never actually had a clear foundation.
If this feels uncomfortably specific… good.
Women have been conditioned to perform for love instead of receive it. Conditioned to prove worth instead of embody it. Conditioned to shape-shift into what feels easier for someone else instead of honoring what they actually want.
So now it shows up like this:
You say you don’t chase… but somehow you’re always the one reviving dead conversations.
You say you’re just being patient… but your best friend now knows his texting habits, childhood traumas, and attachment style and he still hasn’t defined the relationship.
If that last sentence made you laugh and cringe a little, welcome.
This is not about blaming anyone. This is not about learning new strategies. And this is definitely not about pretending you're unbothered while quietly disappearing from yourself.
This is about uncovering the subconscious patterns you can't yet see and becoming the version of you who finally stops repeating them.
Why This Works When Everything Else Hasn't...
Most advice tries to change what you do. This changes who you are when you do it.
At some point, awareness stops being the problem. The problem is that nothing is changing.
You've been showing up to relationships from anxiety, overgiving, and quiet hope that someone will finally see your worth. This is where that changes.
I'll help you identify what's actually driving the pattern and coach you through changing it in real time. Not in theory. Not six months from now. It happens now.
This is not a prerecorded course or workshop. Every call is live, every session is real coaching, and every woman in this container gets a plan built specifically for her. You will be heard. You will be seen. And you will get direct coaching on what is actually happening in your life, not a generic framework. (For private coaching click here).
This is identity transformation. When you change, everything you touch does too.
LOGISTICS
Why I Created This
I created Chosen because I kept watching brilliant, self-aware women repeat the same patterns in their relationships and not because they weren't trying.
They were doing the therapy. Reading the books. Listening to the podcasts. And still showing up the same way with the same people, wondering why nothing changed.
My gift is activating women's highest potential, recognizing the patterns that keep them stuck, the wound underneath the behavior, the fear causing the resistance, the core belief underneath the self-abandonment and then coaching them into a different identity that holds the life they want.
I coach you to see your truth so that you change your own patterns and highlight where you haven't been honest with yourself and I will guide you to see the medicine within yourself to heal the wounds creating those patterns.
That's what this 30 days is designed to do.
FAQ
What if I’m not actively dating right now? Perfect. This container is just as relevant for women preparing to show up differently as it is for women currently in the thick of it. The goal isn't just to react better when triggered. It's to shift the identity bringing those patterns into your relationships in the first place.
Is this only about romantic relationships? No. While many women come in through their love life, this work touches every relationship in your life friendships, family, how you show up at work, and most importantly how you relate to yourself. The pattern doesn't only live in romance. It lives in you.
Will there be private coaching? This is a collective container because so much healing happens when women realize they are not the only one doing wildly relatable things in their relationships.
Private Coaching: Please email me at dara@darasloan.com
What happens after I pay? You’ll be redirected to a short intake form so I understand what you’re struggling with. Then you’ll receive your onboarding details for the WhatsApp container.
Is this refundable? Because this is a live intimate transformational experience with limited spots, all sales are final. No refunds or transfers.
If you are tired of repeating the same patterns, abandoning yourself for others, or becoming a version of yourself in relationships that you barely recognize, this is your invitation.
Your group chat is exhausted. Your best friend deserves a break. And your nervous system does not need another podcast.
It needs a pattern interruption.
July 6 - August 4, 2026
Investment: $499
Must Book By June 30, 2026